I've been uh releasing
videos and
I've been getting feedback on the way I
speak. I've been speaking
and it's very interesting. This guy on
Reddit gave me really helpful feedback
really like and eye opening. He said it
sounds like I went un underwent NLP
speaking training, natural language
processing, which I was not familiar
with. Um, so I've been learning and it's
fascinating.
You know, he said that uh I spoke with
lengthened speaking pauses, relatively
slow speaking, deep voice. This
allegedly gives you authority in some
mysterious way. observe the use of
seemingly innocuous hand gestures like
touching the chin. Oh my god, the ears
and scratching. [snorts] So this is
fascinating.
There's this whole technique which they
call it's even called natural language
processing
and it's made to emulate
subconscious or inconscious
gestures and habits.
[clears throat]
I got I got my little my little kitten
here. You want to say hi, Latte? This is
Latte.
She's purring, but she's got sharp
little claws.
Okay. So um
basically these techniques
are made to emulate
uh what I'm doing naturally which is my
my method is to just meditate a little
bit kind of take some deep breaths and
relax before I I speak and then
just uh speak
um authentically with genuine presence,
right?
There's one reason I'm just filming kind
of here in my in my at my dining room
table and so on. I I'm if I'm trying to
do anything is to simply be present,
right? And my intention in in filming
these things
is first of all for myself to to so
to speak my thoughts whether I'm writing
a poem or making a video or even talking
to a friend. You know they say you learn
best when you're teaching.
And so like it it locks it in like it
helps me to lock in that the lessons
that I'm learning to to write them down
and to record them. [snorts] And part of
my purpose as a man, uh, as a father is
is to to model,
you know, a healthy to be a good role
model, a healthy role model for my son.
And, you know, he he said this was like
trying for people who play alpha male or
something like that, which I thought was
very interesting because I, as if you
follow me, you know, I've talked a lot
about femininity and things like that.
I'm very open with [snorts] my
femininity and
uh but it's interesting cuz I mentioned
that I've been having this masculine
awakening and now this guy's literally
saying that I I sound like I'm coming
off like I'm being an alpha male, trying
to be an alpha male, but all I'm doing
is
um meditating
and kind of calming all the voices and
so on before I before I just speak
really for myself and secondarily for my
son.
But what do I think about
speaking to my son
is
to be authentic and genuine.
I I want to model to my son the healthy
feminine
and so on.
But it's so fascinating. You I I I seen,
you know, that they they call this NLP
kind of hypnotic.
And honestly, I I kind of watch my own
videos partially again to like like to
take in my own lessons and hold myself
accountable and so on and and
to help peg
myself as I'm becoming.
It's not that I'm
uh lying or or trying to present a a
mask. For instance, I I felt kind of
disgusted with myself yesterday because
I still hadn't caught up fully on the
dishes.
And so,
why did I feel disgusted? Because I was
not I was not practicing my own lessons
in medicine and so on. And and
furthermore, the fundamentals of the
lessons and are true. You know, when you
don't follow through, you start to feel
bad and so on. So, I was literally
experiencing this. I was doing this to
myself and I felt I felt bad about it,
you know. Um, I kind of took a day off
yesterday and did dishes and things.
Uh
but
if they call it like hypnotic
and it's interesting to me because when
I'm speaking I'm essentially channeling.
I think of it kind of like channeling. I
don't I don't plan out a script. I don't
plan out gestures. I don't
try to present a certain way.
And if I have like inonations and
expressions and gestures and so on,
it's very flow. It's very and and so if
I'm talking about different emotions,
I will kind of channel the emotions as
I'm talking and then they show up on my
face and so on because I'm I'm just
feeling what I'm saying.
But this is a natural flow, natural
language processing
and it's I was talking about language.
So this it's just fascinating that I was
effectively using language. I was using
language in a natural way that was
hypnotic
intuitively. I'm not trained on NLP.
But what NLP seems to be this whole
discipline, this whole complex
to
fake
authentic expression, un unfiltered
authentic expression.
And another thing that's fascinating, so
okay, they they talked about speaking in
a deeper voice. And [snorts] this is
something I've noticed that I feel like
my voice has deepened a little bit or or
sometimes it it goes deeper than it did
years ago.
Pardon me.
And in NLP, you know, they talk about
how this get this lends decisiveness and
authority
to your presence, your presentation.
And it's interesting because my voice
has deepened as I've done gone through
the internal work of becoming decisive,
of becoming an authority in my own life.
And so, of course, my voice sounds more
authoritative and decisive.
when that is the reality I'm creating
for myself. When I speak authority and
decisiveness into myself and I and I
practice that and I follow through in my
life, of course, my presence and my
speech become decisive and
authoritative, right?
Uh
but so it's interesting how okay so we
think of a a deep voice as masculine
and we think of decisiveness and
authority as masculine. This is alpha
male
and it's interesting because it's it's
kind of there is a real correlation
there.
A person with well-developed masculinity
will have well-developed
traits that are masculine
like decisiveness and authority.
And if they have those well-developed
traits, of course, those traits come off
in how they express themselves.
And so of course the people observing
uh maybe subconsciously
you know see that pattern and say oh
this person's decisive
they're masculine. [laughter]
That's fascinating. It's fascinating.
And they say that that you know when you
awaken or go through this this spiritual
work this shadow work this this healing
work that you you'll have other physical
changes. They say you could get taller.
Maybe you stand straighter.
They say that your eyes can change
color.
Uh other things
many other changes can happen in your
body. Definitely lots of healing can
happen. You know, cancers and autoimmune
diseases and many things can be
expressions of suppressed emotion. This
is scientific.
And so of course if you if you if you
heal the suppressed emotions some of
these things can
can
lighten or or even you know heal
themselves. Your body can heal itself.
It can heal itself. And this totally has
to do with your your emotional
healing journey.
So I thought that was fascinating. This
natural language processing and and all
these techniques. This the guy who said
this was an actor.
And I thanked him and I told him what
I'm doing that I'm just relaxing and and
be trying to be genuine, trying to be
authentic.
But that's such a powerful thing that
there are whole disciplines dedicated to
faking it.
[laughter]